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Thursday, April 19, 2012

Tampa Dating- Dating A Co Worker



In our days more and more people decide to start a relationship with a co-worker. The reason why this happens is that many young professional men and women are spending almost all their time at the office, so they have less time to go out and meet new people. So, it is natural to seek friendship and companionship from colleagues.

But for many times, this friendship transform into a relationship that in most of the cases fail. There are many risks that make this very difficult to maintain. But not many people know about this before they start a relationship. So, if you are a very busy man too and spend all your time in an office, and decided to date with a co-worker, you should take a closer look at all the potential benefits and disasters that could be associated with this new career move.

There are some aspects that you should take in consideration:

-Before you ask your co-worker for a possible date, check if your company has an employee dating policy; the company may have strict rules about any relationship that forum between you two; also think about how much you are wiling to risk your career for this relationship from the beginning

-If you didn't ask her for a date already, and don't know how to do it, you may organize a group outing or event and invite her; but if she refuse, you have to think at something else; suggest something casual like dinner or movie

-Before ask her for a date, make sure that you know as much as you can about her; so develop an office relationship before you develop a romantic one

-You must think about what happens if your relationship doesn't work; will you be able to handle the situation to see your co-worker every day, to interact her daily? It may be very difficult to re-establish a professional demeanor with a person

-At final one of you have to leave this job because thing's don't work out or because it's against the company policy to date fellow employees

-Or worst, you don't know what your partner is capable to do if things don't work between you two, it may be ruining your career

-Dating a co-worker can affect your work, if you are unable to differentiate between work and pleasure; so agree to not flirt at work, you have to set up relationship rules for the workplace

-Avoid signs of affection in public such as hand holding, kisses, flirting; you'd better meet off-site for lunch or after program hours

-It is true that you have a lot in common, that you will go with pleasure every morning at the office anxious to see her, and it is a person with who you will always have what to speak about;

-You have someone to confide in concerning your work problems; she may be a great help; but, there are more negatives aspects about this kinds of relationships

-Remember that you have to maintain a professional image, so don't let your relationship affect your performance; if your romance is affecting your work, you may be asked to end your relationship or to find another job

-A relationship like this can create problems in your promotion; the boss may see that you are more preoccupied by your partner than your work

-Develop open communication, if you are dating with a co-worker think about the fact that you have to have two different types of relationships, business and romantic, with the same person;

-Never date with a subordinate because you may be accused for favoritism by the others employers; the others co-workers will exclude you now from certain conversations, will not discuss anymore with you about privacy

-If you spend more and more time with her during the office hours, the more and more you will distance yourself from your associates, those you've developed personal relationships with;

-If you start a relationship with a co-worker it is better to keep it secret; it will need a lot of discretion, energy and effort to keep your office romance just between you two; so don't tell your colleagues about your romance because your both work will be definitely affected

-Also avoid sending electronic love messages or letters because some companies prohibit the use of company e-mails system for personal use, others reserves the right to access or disclose electronic messages or files of an employee

-As a benefit, you get to have lunch together; so from a usual boring office lunch, you can have part of one full of flirting

As you see there are some benefits but most of them are downsides. I suggest you to think very well if you really want to get into a relationship that may affect your career and if you are ready to do this. As I said, it may be very difficult to make it work. But, it remains at your choice what you are going to do.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Tampa Dating-Are You Desperate to Date a Girl?


Don’t be! Finding the right girl for you to date takes a lot of confidence, honesty and time. A good place to start is visiting the places where a lot of people hang out, at the same time, places that you love so that you both have a thing in common. If you love going to coffee shops or going to clubs on Friday nights, then look for her there. It is important to meet a girl that do things similar to things that you do.

An effective and interesting way to meet a girl is through online matchmakers. These matchmaker sites will assist you so you can find the right girl for you. Here, you can read about their personalities and traits as well as you can talk to them and see their photos. Make certain that you take time in knowing the girl well before you invite and meet with her on a date.

If meeting girls online is not your “cup of tea” then you can meet girls at social gatherings, parties, clubs, disco or the gym. You can also organize a simple party and let your girl buddies to bring along their friends. The more girls that you meet, you have more chances of meeting that special girl for you. Just remember that you will not meet her just by staying at home. You have got to go out and look for her with conscious effort and a very alert mind.

And when you do find her, although it is a good thing to display your attraction and interest, never over do it; never tell her things that will make her run away from you.

Keep in mind not to ask the girl right away for a date; asking her too soon might scare her off. Instead, be casual and friendly; get to her a step at a time, before you decide to date her. Call her so you both can have a conversation and you will find some things about her. Then when you feel that the time is right and that you like her enough to spend an evening with her, then go and ask.

Congratulations! Now you are ready for a date (in case she answered yes). Here are guidelines on what to do:

1. Spend the evening in a place you know she loves. Since you already know what her “likes” are during your phone conversations, then you will have an idea where to bring her. Also be sure you like the place; this will be of no problem, since you met her in a place that you both enjoy visiting.

2. Dress right. This means dressing for the occasion and for the place; dress that you look and feel good. Take extra effort so that you are well groomed (shaved, smells nice, freshly ironed clothes and clean shoes). Remember, this is your first date and you have to put on that good and lasting impression on her.

3. Relax and be yourself. Do not put too much thought on whether she will like you or not. The fact that she said yes for this date means she likes you. When you are relaxed, you can converse well and make her at is as well.

4. Be courteous and polite. Be careful of the things you say and do as rude comments or anxious behavior is unpleasant and can offend her. Be considerate and respectful; when you smoke, ask her first.

5. Listen. At some point, let her do the talking and just listen attentively. By listening, your conversation will continue to flow. While it is good to ask her questions so that you can get to know her, be careful with your questions and avoid personal interrogation.

6. Be careful when selecting the food. From your phone conversations, learn what her favorites are. Likewise, carefully choose a menu that is not messy to eat.

7. Never ever get drunk. There is nothing humiliating then having a drunken date.

8. Never talk about your past relationships. Remember, the woman you like is with you now and a potential serious relationship at hand. Forget about the past.

9. End the date right, do not be overly pushy. Evaluate the situation. When you feel that you both had a good time and you like her, a hug or a brief kiss will do. Do not go beyond. This will just send out the wrong sign, signaling to her that you are either very desperate or that you are only out for sex. Do not forget to thank her and tell her that you had a wonderful.

So do not be desperate. There are a lot of women out there and if you will not find them, chances are, they will find you! Just be patient!

Monday, April 16, 2012

Tampa Dating-Writing a profile



A profile is an online representation of yourself so why not represent the best parts of you? There are four areas of a profile that you should keep in mind: honesty, creativity, research, writing. By mastering these areas, you will be able to write an excellent and self-elevating profile that can capture anyone's attention.

Part One: Honesty

Always be honest with the readers of your profile; remember that you and the others on the site are searching for that special someone--how can a relationship grow when there is deceit from the beginning?
Speak candidly about who you are and what you are looking for. Then, at least you will know that, when someone messages you, they are genuinely interested. Putting up a pretense will only summon people who are interested in your lies; this will not build a solid relationship.
Being honest doesn't mean to be sell yourself short; you don't have to dwell on your faults and misgivings. Showcase your good qualities (just don't exaggerate).


Part Two: Creativity

Nothing can turn a potential relationship sour more than a dull profile. There are thousands upon thousands of people looking for the exact same thing you are: a genuine connection. You must be able to catch their attention.
Try to avoid using phrases like Looking for Mr. Perfect? or In Search Of That Special Lady? or descriptions like hard-working?, romantic? and attractive?. These are all cliche and overdone. Spice your profile up with original ideas!
Show off your strengths. Give your readers anecdotes or narratives that display you in a good light.
Get yourself a thesaurus. As silly as this may sound, a thesaurus can help you avoid using words that have been used too many times before.
Do not use letters to describe yourself; for example, SWF (single white female) can mean a variety of things to a variety of people. Don't limit yourself to this.

Part Three: Research

You know what kind of relationship you want; whether it be a friend, a casual date, or something as deep as a marital partner, you have a clear picture in your mind of how far you are willing to go. Seek out people with that same goal.

Write a profile that will appeal to the kind of person you're after; the only way they can find you is if you help them. Check out other profiles for ideas.

If you receive interest with your profile but still can't seem to find that right person, then go do some online window-shopping. Scan through profiles, find some that catch your attention, and start messaging. They don't all have to come to you.

Part Four: Writing

So, you've gathered your information and you have a clear idea of what you want out of this site; however, your writing seems a little...lifeless. Be careful of this! By paying attention to the three steps before you, you should be able to write a profile that is distinctly you.

This is an example of what not to do: I'm a SBM looking for a SF. Good looking, funny. Message me. Eyes are going to glaze over; you cannot limit yourself like this. It will only hurt you.

Spice it up: I am a 22-year-old female, blessed with long, blonde hair and big, brown eyes. I'm short, only 5'4, but what I lack in size, I make up for in spirit. I am looking for someone that can keep up with me; come and get me, boys. She gives a description and a challenge, all within a few sentences ”you don't have to be long-winded to get the point across.

A good profile can bring you all of the attention you want and lead you to a successful relationship; follow these steps to what you want.

Sunday, April 15, 2012

My Tampa Dating-Dating in the Work Place


For most young career people, they find spending nearly 35% of their time at the workplace than at their respective homes. That accounts to almost 9 hours of work, work, and work.

For this reason, most of the people involved in this kind of situation find themselves out of place in the social world because they simply do not have time to meet other people anymore. In fact, they do not even have time for themselves.

That is why it is not such an appalling revelation when some surveys showed how 67.8% of the respondents, all working but in different companies, are into relationship with their colleagues. This goes to show that because of the time constraint that most professionals have and because of the lack of sociable time that they need, most of them divert to the aspect of getting a romantic partner in the office instead.

Most of those who are involved in this kind of relationship contend that their workplace seemed to be a natural breeding ground for romantic couples since they are together for more than 40 hours within the week.

Also, they asserted that creating a relationship in the office is inevitable because most of them get along with each other well based on the premise that they revolve around the same environment that initiates common interests, beliefs, and backgrounds.

However, because of some professional etiquette around the office, some companies despise the idea of having their employees being involved with each other. The bosses believe that romantic and intimate relationships may bring about negligence on their respective jobs.

Moreover, certain flaws are seen on this kind of relationship. There is a higher probability that the couple might have a conflict of concern with regards to their respective duties in the office and their duties and responsibilities with each other.

Therefore, for those who cannot help but fall in love while doing monthly inventories, here is a list of some workplace romance tips to keep you out of the brink of disaster:

1. Think first before deciding

Before deciding on this matter, it would be better to think first, probably a hundred…no make that a thousand times before deciding on it.

Try to contemplate on the possible consequences and benefits that you can get from the relationship. If the relationship will not work out, will you be ready to face the consequences?

2. Evaluate each prospect

Establishing a worthwhile relationship with your colleagues should primarily be based on its being worthy for a date.

It would be better if you will evaluate on the upshots of dating the person based on his or her position in the company, its value, and the possible corollaries of the separation, if ever.

For instance, if you want to ask your colleague on a date, try to contemplate first on the issue of rivalry between you and your officemate and the rough situation that both of you may be in after the breakup.

Also, try to look the possible angle of biasness for bosses dating their subordinates. The issue of “favoritism” may take place.

3. Be smart

Keep in mind that the reason why God placed our minds above our hearts is for the mind to rule above all. So if you are suddenly being snooped with some seniority in the office, do not be deceived yet. Try to test this person for some reliability quizzes and put him more on hot water.

The point here is that if ever he is trying to establish a good romantic relationship with you, it is better to be assured that his intentions are for real and just because he is looking for some diversion in the office.

4. Friendships as the best foundation

For a budding romantic relationship in the office, it is best to keep focused on creating friendships first. This is because some people believed that friendship, as the core foundation of any relationship, is better than just a break-from-work relationship.

Given all that, workplace romance can be really fun and dreamy. However, one or both of them should realize that office romances are not based on a contract that can expires when the time allotted has elapsed. It would be better to hear these kinds of relationships to last a lifetime, even if both of them have already retired from their jobs.

Saturday, April 14, 2012

My Tampa Dating-Dating Tips

We all laugh at everyone’s dating disaster in some way. We all pretend to be very saddened by the person’s situation. But deep in our mind we are either snickering or thinking “what if that happened to me?” That’s why we just all laugh at those dating disasters because it helps compensate the pain. Here is a list of dating disasters or regrets that we could learn from.

1. Never date a married person. Dating a married person always guarantees disaster. This relationship will always be about deceit, lies and cheating. The unmarried party will also be led to expect something that could or might never happen; which is being in a serious relationship with the married person. It might also bother your conscience that you are destroying the life of the married couple. This relationship or dating period will never ever work out and be fun. It will always be filled with doubt.

2. Most people regret not settling down with their childhood sweetheart or 1st love at college. They always believe that there will be more fish out there so why settle down? There might be more fish out there but do they actually fit your taste and personality. Compared to that proven fish that you have already established with your childhood sweetheart or 1st college love. Some people who didn’t marry their childhood sweetheart will only think that they have settled for 2nd best only. This will be unfair to the other party, because you will always be thinking about that 1st love.

3. People always regret not taking the offer of the date when the offer was there. People will always ask the “what if” question. Just imagine all the girls who turned down Bill Gates now. Bottom line give the person a chance, it won’t hurt to have a sip of coffee for only 30 minutes. You might even find out you might click.

4. People also regret not ending a really bad relationship earlier. There might have been a time during the bad relationship that there was someone better who would’ve wanted to be with you. But because you were in that bad relationship you passed out on that other wonderful person. So if you think you’re just not in the right situation have the courage to end it.

These are the things that most people have regretted during their dating period. In fact some of their regrets ended up in disastrous “what ifs?” Be wise, have the balance of following your head and heart at the same time. Only you will know what is right for you.

Friday, April 6, 2012

Tampa Dating-Attitude counts


When it comes to dating a woman, attitude plays a very big role in how successful, or unsuccessful you are. If you have a positive attitude you’re more likely to attract women more easily than a guy with a negative attitude. Being positive and upbeat shows in nearly everything you do, as does being negative and glum. Women are much more likely to choose the positive, upbeat guys.

First, a positive attitude reflects confidence and self-respect. As we already discussed, confidence and self-respect are vital. A positive attitude also directly affects how other people feel when they’re around you. For example, have you ever had a friend or co-worker who was always down or pessimistic? If you have, did you notice that after a while his or her mood started making you feel down or uncomfortable or irritable? Chances are it’s happened to all of us. So remember, if for no other reason than to not be a dark cloud hanging over everyone’s head, try your best to be positive and have a good attitude.

But it goes much further than that. When you’re trying to make your best impression on a woman, being negative will not work. You have to feel good before you can make anyone else feel good. You have to radiate the same kinds of feelings you want to receive. If you’re not giving off those positive vibes we’ll pick up on it and most likely steer clear of you.

The bottom line: women like to find a man who’s stable. Part of what women judge stability on is your work. No, this doesn’t mean you need to be a rocket scientist. It simply means that if you’re changing jobs every couple of months, or getting let go for poor attitude or poor performance, which is directly affected by your attitude, then we’re going to think twice before we get involved with you. Remember, women are looking for a partner; a 50 – 50 relationship.

Online Dating

Technology has always been there to make lives of people easier. In fact, thanks to technology the world of emotions has also been conquered. Don’t try to think dirty here folks. What I’m talking about is the love connection that can happen through online dating sites and chatting rooms or software such as ICQ, MSN or MIRC.

Thanks to these websites and chat software people have been given a better chance to find their partner. This is because people are given the chance to be connected wherever they might be. All different cultures and walks of life are able to meet with a simple click of the keyboard. In short a person has got a better chance to meet his or her partner because of the greater number of daters. It is also easier to meet people online thanks to online date sites and chat rooms.

After chatting for a while and getting to know one another, it would be natural to meet. It would be a pretty shallow relationship if both of you are happy to be forever just chatting. Both persons may just be really looking for someone to talk to.

Finding love through the internet offers the two sides to get intimate right away. This is because it is easier to be yourself when chatting online. Just imagine that you can say anything stupid and you won’t see the other person thinking that it’s corny. Instead most chatters, even though you are pretty corny just type LOL (laugh out loud).

Because of the perception that you have built about yourself and the other person, meeting them becomes very hard. This is because of the perception you have given to him or her during chatting could not be really you. Both of you will then have higher expectations of who the real person really is.

Another problem that online chatting could present is the confidence of a person. Since it is easier to talk online, a person who is very shy or timid may have a hard time keeping up with who he or she really is. The person instead is like living both worlds.

When also meeting for the first time after long periods of chatting that could last in the wee hours of the morning, is being able to adjust. Both of you would have to figure out that it would be harder to talk on real life because of certain other factors involved. You are now both able to see the person’s mannerisms. This will be the toughest part that you would have to overcome. Once you have gone past this, the rest will be easier.

It is suggestible though to meet sooner rather than later. When meeting earlier at the chatting stages, this prevents both person having higher expectations. This also helps both parties to decide right away whether they are just better of friends or continue to develop the relationship. This helps both parties prevent disappointment and heartaches.

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

My Tampa Dating- Meet Shelby




Come by the office and meet Shelby our new member service manager. She is getting
to know all our singles. Come by and let her introduce you to your next special date.

Sunday, April 1, 2012

Tampa Singles


Tampa Singles

Tampa Singles can you believe it is already April! This year seems to be going by so fast.
which is an excellent reason to make the most of every hour, every day, every encounter. We
have been given the gift of togetherness and every day we can choose to
join hands or we can choose to isolate. Doesn't that seem like a
pretty simple choice? The more you love , the more others will
love you back. Tampa Singles everything is better when we are in a happy healthy relationship.

Tampa Singles

Tampa Singles Where are we without good solid relationships in our families,
schools, neighborhoods, and in our social lives? Fact: People that
don't know how to form healthy relationships with others will almost
always have a hard time in the work place or on the home front, not to
mention the ROMANCE. As the old saying goes, "It takes a village to
raise a child." Tampa Singles I am sure in one way or another, we
have all been in a situation where our relations were suffering. This
year, focus on building NEW RELATIONSHIPS as well as making existing
relationships stronger. You can do it if you choose to do it. I
promise! It's as simple as a choice. Either you do it...or you don't.

"Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It's not
negotiable. The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both
physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you
are at risk." (Psychology Today). Instead of burning bridges, build
them! There are so many benefits to choosing love and togetherness.
Tampa Singles here are just a few

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Tampa Singles

1.) Tampa Singles Relationships are good for your health. Countless studies show
that married people live longer than unmarried people. I have seen the
miracle of love in my own office time and time again. I have met many
people who are coming out of a difficult break up or, sadly, death of a
spouse, and lo and behold as soon as they begin meeting new friends
they become "whole" again. Loneliness, on the other hand, is a
contributing risk factor for Alzheimer's, suicide, and many other
terrible ailments. Love is hope, and hope is a cure.

2.) Tampa Singles Romantic relationships are good for weight loss (BONUS POINTS TO
LOVE). One of the "perks" in my job is that many members may join and
say: "I want to lose a few pounds and get in better shape." Well,
what a better motivator then having a date Saturday night? I have
seen ladies and men that join with the infamous "ten pounds" on their
minds. Within weeks of joining the weight seems to just fall off.
Why? Mainly because of the renewed faith and connectedness to others.
It really is neat to witness!

3.) Tampa Singles Good relationships ward of depression. The less bonding you have,
the more depressed you are likely to feel. This is one reason why I
decided to work in this business instead of pursuing my doctorate in
psychology. I realized at a young age that love is a better (cure)
antidepressant than most. Love more and you will feel better. The
world will open up to you and embrace you. Love less or "isolate" more
and the world will close up on you; you will end up ALONE. Yes, there
are people that need real medication and that is perfectly
alright....but the ultimate power lies in love and relationships.

4.) Tampa Singles Relationships are good for the economy. Think about it. If you
are feeling love at home, if you have a hot date to look forward to on
the weekend, don't you think you will perform better on the job? YES,
you will! You will walk taller, smile bigger, and show more love to
others in your office and around you-hence attracting positive
results. "Like attracts like." You will be like a magnet for good
energy, and as a result you will acquire more sales, you may get a
raise, or even a promotion. Whatever your goals may be, they will come
easier.

Fact: Tampa Singles Good relationships will foster more light in your life. As you
become more connected, you will feel more attractive, energetic,
optimistic, confident, inventive, sentimental, receptive, and
motivated. I sincerely hope this desire to merge and bond with others
(from your neighbors to coworkers to family to NEW LOVE) will spread
like a wild fire for you. Without love and bonding, where would we all
be? The world would cease. So, join in on the "Love Movement"...or
the club...and DO make love your ultimate goal this year. No one wants
to truly be alone. Follow us on twitter@TampaDating