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Wednesday, June 27, 2012

My Tampa Dating Communicating With Women

We all know that this world is full of women, but all are different. It is said that it is very hard to understand women that's why here are some true statements about how they communicate that you can learn from and see how it applies to your girlfriend, wife or other woman you know. Women don’t need to have a particular reason to talk; they like to talk because it creates connection. So they always want to have near them someone who wants to listen and talk with them. Also, women use talking as a way to release tension. There are a lot of conflicts inside a couple about communication because, for women, talking something out over and over again eventually dissipates the stuck energy around it. They hate being told to get over it, that you don' t have time to listen. If rambling conversation drives you crazy or you don’t have a lot of time let her know what time you do have and give her the attention. You should listen to her without trying to find a point or solution. Women express their thinking and feeling process out loud. Hearing themselves talk helps women get clear on what is going on inside of them. The process of expressing their thoughts out loud actually allows them to figure out what they’re thinking and feeling. So you should be a good listener and show that you are interested in what she thinks and feel. They don't like the men which enjoy having a specific purpose for the conversation. Women communicate with details. They love details; that’s why a woman’s interest in the details about your life is not an attempt to interrogate you or invade your privacy and their habit of sharing the details of their life is not an attempt to take up too much of your time. Rather, they are trying to connect. If you want to surprise her try to make some remarks using some details for example the way she is dressed, the color of her eyes... Women minimize how upset they are. In order to keep the peace, women often don’t express how upset they really are. They don’t stand up for themselves, and they downplay the severity of their dissatisfaction. When they said that are alright but still look upset, they are still upset. If you take the time to try to get a woman to say what she really feels, that attempt alone will actually make her feel better because she knows you cared enough to try. They don't like the men which, in order to avoid a confrontation take her answer literally and leave it when she says that is fine but still look upset. They love to insist and find out what she really think and try to make her feel better. Show her that you care and it is important to you her happiness. In general, they like to have a lot of friends (I mean girlfriends) with whom to share all their thoughts, dreams and secrets which a man would never understand. Most of them don't feel secure to have an open talk with their partner and to be completely honest like she is with her friends. So women are well aware that most of the time they are a profound mystery to men.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

My Tampa Dating- Dating Tips

Sure you're nice - most people are. So what? This quality is one that reflects your feeling that you're a man worth knowing and you deserve women's attention. But do you really believe that women pay attention to what you think you deserve? Being nice is not enough. Okay, fine, you're nice, but you also need to be interesting. Unfortunately, "nice guy" equates to wimp/dweeb in too many people's minds. Believe me: you don't have to be a jerk to attract women! As a matter of fact, women did not like jerks or aggressive men. They are attracted by challenging, interesting guys. That's all. You can be interesting, challenging and still a nice man. Be yourself but keep in mind these significant things that can make the difference between a regular nice guy and a successful one: 1. Women LOVE a man who is a CHALLENGE... the quickest and easiest way I've ever heard to let a woman know that YOU are the guy she should be pursuing is to let women know you are successful with women. Be a nice guy, but one that is desirable. :) 2. The MOST EFFECTIVE way to approach a woman and spark her attraction for you is giving her a COMPLIMENT on her looks. This can be suicidal if done wrong... but just find something at her what you really think is special, different about her. You give attention, and you will get attention in return! 3. Not being aggressive doesn't mean that you have to wait for madam perfection to drop into your lap (which you as a "nice guy" deserve by definition, of course). You have to take some initiative. BE SELF-CONFIDENT (but not really cocky) and show some honest interest in something about a woman. 4. The best selling genre of books in the world is romance novels... because women LOVE romance. So don't talk about sport for God seek! If you are not the type of man that reads poetry or is able to talk about moon or about the smell of burned tree leafs, don't do it. You'll look unnatural. But taking your date in a romantic place, offering her a nice flower, enjoying some good music or even touching her hand in a delicate way is very romantic. 5. And don't talk only about you. You want her to listen to you? Then first listen carefully to her when she needs to be heard. The most effective way to be interesting is asking questions and… listens. Only try and you'll see. :) Keep in mind that often (not always, but very often) when a woman tells you about a problem she' s having, she's not looking to you for the solution. What? That doesn't make sense? What she's often looking for is comfort and reassurance and knowing that YOU'RE THERE. 6. One of the most important things in dating is to approach women that are interested in dating and women that seem to be interested in you. Don' t try to sell candies to someone that is looking for peanuts and don't waste your time with women that are still affected by their ex long term relationships. You don't want to be just a shoulder to cry? You only live once, so live your life well! www.mytampadating.com

Monday, June 18, 2012

My Tampa Dating - Dating Tips

Being a good flirt has as much to do with not doing the wrong things as it does with doing the right things. Flirting is difficult because there's such a fine line between being successful and crashing and burning. It's so easy to do everything right, but then ruin all of your progress by making one of the all too common mistakes below. 1) Don't be crude If you make obvious and nasty sexual innuendoes, you aren't being a turn on, you're being a pervert...unless you're a girl (then it's ok). 2) Don't ignore body language Over 65% of communication is non-verbal. If you aren't actively looking at the way their body is shifting or what the person's eyes are saying, you're going to miss a lot of obvious signs that say "I'm into you, keep talking."...or..."You're a freak, and I don't want you around a second longer." 3) Avoid being overtly slick It's fine to act cool, but don't go overboard. You won't seem like yourself...and that's not attractive. 4) Don't be silly Flirting should make your target feel sexy and wanted, not entertained. You want to be perceived in a sexual way...not as the funny guy or girl. 5) Don't be excessively cute If you act too cute (unsexy), you'll be seen as an innocent and nice person. That's great if you want to be just a friend, but not for anything more. 6) Cut your losses if it's obvious your actions aren't appreciated If your flirtations are clearly visible and you aren't being flirted with back, it's time to pack it up and move on. 7) Don't show fear Insecurity is perceived as a terribly unattractive sign of weakness. If you want to get your target to take you seriously, you've got to hide your nerves. This means no...stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc. 8) Avoid being overly touchy feely...unless you're a girl This is specifically aimed at the guys. It's not appropriate to grope or touch a woman unless you know she likes you. If you aren't sure that she's into you, it's ok to lightly touch her shoulder or graze her arm...but that's it! Do not put your arm around her waist or constantly touch her shoulder or body. This will freak her out and make her feel terribly uncomfortable around you.

Saturday, June 16, 2012

My Tampa Dating Dating Tips

Most men have their own way on how they can attract women. It only requires some moves to impress her. There are some obvious acts in a man’s behavior that makes a man to impress a woman. Look on how a man behaves in front of woman. There are certain approaches that may be observed in some instances. Men know what they want and they do know how to hide those real motives for that girl. The intention when a man wants to impress a woman can be associated to the feeling that he wants to look good in front of the girl he really likes. The impression that a person wants to build up on himself is always good traits on his personality. The best behavior of a man can be seen in these situations where his bad side is set aside to establish himself as the perfect choice for that girl. When a person is trying to impress a target woman, he tends to be the best that he can be. He may tell only “cool” things that can capture the heart of a woman. Sometimes he may act a little nervous and anxious in moments when he is with the girl. Men are good in getting the interests of the woman, especially on the things they want to hear and have. These can be misleading sometimes. Women can get a little tricky on what they say and tell. Others seem to back-pedal on some comments, where the girl do not believe or do not like what he said. Some changes their perspective even if they know that it is right and true. They tend to be a little careful on their statements especially when the topic is about them. It can be too risky if the person tries to make some teasing or making comments about the girl. These acts can be a little over the edge at times, because they are too obvious and many women see it like more of an old-fashioned style. Here are some tips where a man can impress the girl of his dreams: 1. A man should ask questions about the girl. He may share his dreams and failures to get the attention of the girl. The man may realize that the girl is sharing her experiences as well. There could be some point that the girl is open to answer questions relating to the person’s own interests. This is an indication that she may fall into the person’s way of conversation. 2. A man should show some interest to the stories that the woman tells. Listening to her is very important to get her attention. This means that the man is willing to understand and sacrifice for the girl. This is good way to impress a woman. Avoid talking too much about adventures and achievements. Most women do not want themselves to sit all night listening. 3. A man should always be presentable. Most women are notorious when it comes to fashion and accessories. If a man wants to impress this woman, he must put some style and be attractive enough to get the attention of others. Know the fact that girls will treat a man like their own accessory. If a man knows how to be good-looking and how to smell good, the girl has just gotten what she wants on a man. 4. A man should always be a gentle man. He must behave well every time he is with the girl. A man should always practice chivalrous behavior. A man must be attentive on what must be the proper way to treat a woman. He should always take care of the girl and do not forget table manners when a man is dating a woman. 5. Do not forget to have eye contact with the girl. Adding a friendly smile can capture her attention. Be sure that there is no malice that will initiate a wrong impression in her part. 6. He should exhibit a strong personality by showing that there is confidence to the intentions he wants to express. Being jealous to other men can lessen the self-esteem. A man can impress a woman by not being predictable, a man should always be true to himself and be honest to the girl he likes. It is always a plus for many women if a man they meet stand by his own principles in a very humble way.www.mytampadating.com

Friday, June 15, 2012

My Tampa Dating- Dating With Confidence

Dating can be a nerve-wracking experience for many people. After all, you could be meeting your future spouse. It can also be a very vulnerable experience. The whole point of dating (usually) is to get to know someone else on an intimate level, or at least beginning this process. For whatever reason, and there are many, most people want to make a good first impression. At the very least, most people want to avoid rejection. Dating is a prime opportunity for this by its very nature. Whether you're looking for a fun night out or a long term development, rejection can occur either way, and it can be difficult to deal with. Self-doubt can come in many forms, from questioning one's intelligence to one's looks to one's ability to tell a good joke. Dating puts it all out there. How can you increase your confidence when it comes to dating? There are a few things you can do, and certain methods are more appropriate for some people than others. First Things First A date is just a date. It is not the rest of your life. Yes, you may meet your future spouse, but this is far beyond the scope of the date. At this point, no matter how desperate you may be feeling to finally settle down, focus only on the date. Putting more pressure on it makes it harder for both of you. The other person is likely to sense your "desperation" (for lack of a better word), and you end up putting way to much pressure on yourself. Instead, try focusing on the date itself, not where it may or may not lead. Enjoy the time together, or, if you don't, try to avoid blaming yourself and going into the litany of self-talk that tries to convince you that you're not worth dating, you'll never find someone, and that you'll be single for the rest of your life. Be Yourself Yes, you've heard it many times before, and there's a reason for it. If you do hit it off with the other person, it's best if this happens when you're being true to yourself. If you're "faking" it, you're then faced with coming forward and facing humiliation, rejection, or both, or continuing the facade. This takes a lot of effort, it's dishonest, and you can't keep it up for very long anyway. So whatever your faults, try not to hide them too much. This doesn't mean that you put them all out on the table on the first date, but it also means that you don't go to extreme measures trying to hide them or pretending to be something or someone you're not. Get Out of Yourself To help deal with your insecurities about yourself, try focusing on the other person. Show a genuine interest in what he or she has to say. Be honest and courteous in your responses. Let the other person have the spotlight. Not only does this help keep you from focusing on your insecurities, it also helps accomplish what dates are meant to do--get to know someone else better. Ask questions, listen to the answers, and ask more. Talk about common interests when you find them. Above all, try to avoid talking about yourself the whole time or worrying too much about how you look, what you're saying, and what type of impression you're making. Try Something Different If the idea of sitting through a quiet dinner with someone you barely know makes you break out into a sweat, consider dating activities that involve a bit more involvement. Take a tour through a garden, go rollerblading, or do some other activity that keeps you moving. If you have something to do, you can focus less on feeling awkward and more on the conversation. It helps keep the atmosphere lighter as well, which can make you both feel more comfortable and confident.www.mytampadating.com

Sunday, June 10, 2012

My Tampa Dating- Online Daters Not Always Honest

I hear people talking about internet dating all the time. I have a large number of friends and co-workers that are obsessed with finding the right person online. It has almost become comical to me the way a person will go home after work at night and spend their entire evening looking for someone to love online when they live in a city full of great people. Isn't it a bit ironic to stay out of society in order to find the right person in society to spend your life with? I'll admit, I do know people that have met through internet dating that are now enjoying amazing marriages, but I'd like to suggest that the success rates are far less than we'd like to believe. Most people that look to internet dating as their only source of hope are still looking weeks, months and often years later for that special someone. You and I both know that life is far too short to be spent online wishing and hoping that your perfect match will somehow sign up for the same internet dating service that you have signed up for. My desire is simply to warn anyone who feels like jumping into the internet dating scene and signing up. At least take some time to really ask yourself why internet dating seems to be your only option right now. If you are too busy to meet people, then do you really think you'll have time to build and maintain an online dating relationship? That is doubtful I think. Or if you're afraid to get out and meet strangers, then is it really a good solution to jump online and meet strangers? I didn't think so. It is vital that you know your reasons and your goals for internet dating before you begin the process. If you have checked your goals and motivations and still feel like you want to head in the direction of internet dating, then do it with caution. Be aware that not everyone online has the same integrity or the same intentions. So be careful about who you are meeting and about what you're expectations are in the process. Don't make any rash decisions and decide to fly around the world to meet someone that you haven't even seen a photo of online. Just be wise, go slowly, and be yourself! One of the biggest problems with internet dating is that people are able to hide online and never have to fully be themselves.www.mytampadating.com

Saturday, June 9, 2012

My Tampa Dating- Online Safety

Almost everything you read about online dating safety is directed at women but men need to be concerned as well. Perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters. So men need to stay on guard, too. It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers. The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it. You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something. That “something” will not be for your benefit. Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment. Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are. Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help. If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware. If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth. A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.www.mytampadating.com

Friday, June 8, 2012

My Tampa Dating-Dating Tips

The Secret to Getting the Ideal Date By Katty Dicus The secret to getting the ideal date is in your profile. You've probably tried online dating sites, and were disappointed with who you were matched with. You may have given up on dating sites because you just can't find your perfect match. And you probably wonder if you'll ever find the right person. It seems like such a defeat and you're tired of trying, so you decide to give up. You're tired of being lonely and you probably think it's always going to be this way. You've been down the wrong road trying to find the perfect match, ending up with losers. You're probably blaming yourself thinking there's something wrong with you, but that is not the case at all. It's quite easy to find the right mate, but you need to know how to create a successful online dating profile. There is hope, because you're perfect match is actually waiting for you, but you just don't know it yet. Now it is time to create your online dating profile with a smile, because you're going to win the dating game this time around. Your profile is the biggest challenge when it comes to an online dating site. You need to learn how to build your profile the correct way to get your profile looked at more often by the kind of person you are looking for. Think about meeting someone for the first time, and imagine what you would say to them to describe yourself. You don't want it to sound like a resume. The ideal profile is 200-350 words. You want the first 150 -200 words to be about you and 50-100 words about who you are looking for. You need a great screen name because when someone is browsing profiles, it will grab their attention. A tagline can be about your personality or occupation. It's important to think of a tagline as a teaser. You want to leave them with the expression of wanting more. You don't want your tagline to be too long or you could get blocked. Just make sure it's a one-liner. You can get ideas by looking at other peoples taglines. It's a must to add great photos to your profile. They need to be clear with no red-eye. Good lighting is essential. Make sure you are in good lighting and that your face can be clearly seen. You need to add several photos and make sure they are recent. You must be the only one in the photo and be sure to smile and look friendly and happy. No one wants to see someone who looks miserable or sad in their profile picture. Also, you need to wear nice clothing, without the bikinis and t-shirts. Save those for later. And please don't hold props such as your cat or dog or a football or anything at all. Don't give out your home number, your real email address or your place of work. Wait until you get to know the person first. You have your choice, because you will have many responses from your profile. By following these tips, you will get the date you desire. If you are a Tampa single looking for a relationship, tired of the dating games, tired of online dating and/or tired of blind dates, let's talk. myTampaDating.com is a dating site designed to incorporate personalized service with match making, singles events, speed dating, background checks and a staff that really cares about its members. When you fill out the form you will talk to our professional match maker and she will be with you through the whole process. We have no sales reps and part-time match makers. We have no telemarketers and part-time employees who constantly turn over. Our personalized approach allows us to get to know each member personally. Go to: www.myTampaDating.com and sign up today. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Katty_Dicus

Monday, June 4, 2012

My Tampa Dating Ezine Article

How to Know If Your First Date Is a Match - 3 Things to Look For By Arlie DuBois Your first date should match the profile you requested, but some singles don't tell the truth on their profile. The only way to know if your first date is a match is when you meet him personally. Most singles talk and act different in person than they do on the phone. Some dating sites don't take the time to screen the applicant or run a background check which weeds out the losers. Make sure you ask them if they do these two things. They need to meet you personally so they can talk to you matching you up with a compatible person. This doesn't always work either, so the best way to know if your first date is a match is when you are face to face with him. There are 3 things to look for. 1 - While you're holding a conversation with him - If he doesn't appear interested in what you're saying or looking in the other direction while you're talking, then that is a sure sign he is not a match for you. He isn't showing you any consideration and wants this date to be his way or no-way. He is looking for something different than what you are. You are probably looking for a serious relationship and maybe he is looking for a fun-time with no strings attached. 2 - If he tries to get to close - He might be interested in one thing and try to hit on you pushing you to leave the restaurant and enticing you to a motel. If he does that, turn him down. He is still a stranger to you and you don't know what he might try to do. Don't let him pull you away. Stay in control and don't let him manipulate you. When you have stood your ground and he leaves without you anyway, then the date is all over and it's time to move on. 3 - Common Ground - If you find that neither of you have nothing in common, that's a sign he's not a match. You must have at least one thing in common to pursue a relationship. Even if it's just pets, that's a great interest. If he won't talk about his hobbies, interests or pets, than the conversation is over. The best way to find out is to dig a little and ask him questions of interest. Before you go on your date, write down everything you can think of to ask him. You may have forgotten something that is of interest to both of you. It takes some common interest for a relationship to work. These are the 3 things to look for to know if your first date is a match. Keep in mind that there are more fish in the sea if he is not a match. Don't let it get you down just because the date didn't work out this time. You just haven't found your dream date. Keep dating and you'll find him. If you are a Tampa single looking for a relationship, tired of the dating games, tired of online dating and/or tired of blind dates, let's talk. My Tampa Dating is a dating site designed to incorporate personalized service with match making,singles events, speed dating, background checks and a staff that really cares about its members. When you fill out the form you will talk to our professional match maker and she will be with you through the whole process. We have no sales reps and part-time match makers. We have no telemarketers and part-time employees who constantly turn over. Our personalized approach allows us to get to know each member personally.www.mytampadating.com Go to: www.myTampaDating.com

Friday, June 1, 2012

Tampa Dating Site- First Date Conversations

You are on your date, sitting in front of your date, you ordered something to drink, and now what? Before you start to talk about the weather, here are a few tips that will help you pass the evening successfully: Preparation Before going out on your first date you should write down a few questions you could ask your date in case the conversation will get stuck. People who go often on dates usually know by heart their list of questions and they draw them out at the correct moment in great skill. You might need to get some practice, but there’s no better time to start practicing than today! Here are some first date questions: 1. What do you do for a living? 2. Do you have any brothers or sisters? Are you close to each other? 3. Did you travel? Where and when? 4. What are your aspirations \ dreams? 5. Do you like \ practice any kind of art? The most important thing about asking these first date questions is that they allow your date to talk about him \ her self and teach you more about the person sitting in front of you. I suggest that in first dates you should avoid asking your date about his \ her previous relationships. If you must ask something in the subject I suggest asking your date what does he \ she look for in a relationship or what kind of relationship they are looking for right now. Compliments Every person likes to be flattered, especially on first dates when the self-confidence is very low and you are both feeling very nervous. Complimenting your date may break the ice, make the other person feel more confident and comfortable and also add some bonus points to your date’s opinion about you. Make sure that your compliments are personal, honest and convincing, and not a cheesy sentence you cite from an Italian movie, which will only make you loose your credibility and your charm.www.mytampadating.com

Thursday, May 31, 2012

Tampa Dating Site-Flirting

Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting. Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT. If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”. So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language? All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site, right? 1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful. 2. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the “feel good” factor. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies. 3. 3. Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”. Do Not be self depreciating. 4. Listen…listen….listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. Works wonders! 5. Don’t be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. If she isn’t interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach. 6. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting. Don’t try to go too fast. Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.www.mytampadating.com